Surprise! Top 5 Most Common Unexpected Triggers for Addiction Relapse
It is common knowledge that when things go wrong, it can be a trigger for relapse for people in addiction recovery. Financial problems, low self-esteem, and tough times like a loss of a loved one or a divorce are obvious triggers for cravings that can eventually result in drinking or drug use.
What is less known, however, is that when things appear to be going great, triggers for relapse may be just as much of a problem – perhaps even more so because the signs are often hidden and no one is prepared.
Here are just a few of the most common triggers for relapse that can strike when you least expect it.
- A Romantic Relationship That Goes Well
Everyone knows that it is no good for your recovery when a romantic relationship goes bad, when a relationship is fraught with argument and misunderstandings, or when feelings are unrequited, but it is often a surprise to learn that romantic relationships that go well are just as much of a trigger in some cases.
Why? Any number of reasons, including:
- A partner who drinks and gets high recreationally
- A partner who tells you that “just one” is okay
- A partner who is also in recovery but “falls off the wagon,” taking you along for the ride
- A codependent relationship that takes so much time that you have little time for 12-Step meetings, therapy, and other treatment services that keep you connected to recovery
- Getting into Your Dream School
- It’s a lot of work or the material is more difficult than you imagined.
- The heavy workload may interfere with your relationships, causing more stress.
- Money may be exceptionally tight.
- The intense schedule may stop you from getting to your usual 12-Step meetings and therapy sessions.
- You may find that you do not love the area of study as much as you thought you might, which may throw you into a state of confusion.
- A Great New Job
- Is far more stressful than you originally thought
- Stops you from engaging in therapeutic interventions and services
- Cuts into your downtime or sleep more than you would like
- Puts you in contact with people who regularly drink or use drugs
- An Amazing Vacation
- Being surrounded by revelers who are drinking and/or using drugs
- Meeting people who are not supportive of your recovery or who otherwise try to exploit your traveler status
- Running out of money or experiencing unexpected problems with credit cards or other sources of funds you were counting on to get you through the trip
- Losing reservations, tickets, or other things necessary to have a smooth trip
- Feeling Confident in Recovery
Managing Cravings and Minimizing Triggers
The way to manage unexpected triggers and cravings is much like how one should respond to more common triggers. That is:
- Know what your unexpected triggers for relapse might be and when they might arise.
- Have a plan for managing those triggers in advance in an effort to circumvent them.
- Notice when you begin to feel uncomfortable or engage in behaviors or thought processes that indicate a relapse may be imminent.
- Surround yourself with people you trust who can help you by providing an objective viewpoint and letting you know when you may be verging on crisis.
What triggers for relapse have come up for you unexpectedly in recovery? How do you make changes or manage the situation so you avoid drinking or using other substances?