The thought of abandoning something that you have kept close for years, sometimes decades seems inconceivable.
For those of us who were raised in families that drink not drinking is about as realistic as not breathing. Everything that has to do with life as we know it revolves around drinking. The reason for getting together is drinking; the reason for staying together is drinking. We drink on holidays, at sporting events, the bowling (drinking) league, baptisms, birthday parties, weddings and funerals. And the days between those are best spent drinking!
Maybe your life hasn’t fallen apart yet but you wish you didn’t have to worry about your drinking habits. It is a burden to always have that nagging doubt in the back of your mind; will I drink too much? Sometimes you do, sometimes you don’t, but to be honest, the times you do far outweigh the times you don’t. The thought of not drinking is terrifying. It isn’t just the drink you will lose, but all of the great things that go with it. You will be on the outside looking in, not one of the gang, ostracized, ridiculed and alone.
Hey, wait a minute; ostracized, ridiculed and alone is exactly how you feel most of the time these days. And the reason is pretty simple; you drink too much. The people you are so afraid of losing if you give up the drink have either already stopped drinking like inexperienced teenagers and are able to enjoy an alcoholic beverage or are simply not obsessed with thinking about drinking.
Truth is, the only people who give your drinking habits a second thought are people who wish you didn’t drink as much as you do.
The rest simply don’t care. That doesn’t make then uncaring, mean people, they just have their own lives to live, and your inability to drink responsibly is your problem, not theirs. The ones who wish you didn’t drink as much as you do are inevitably the people you need and want to be part of your life for the long haul. It is those people who matter, and those opinions that need most to be listened to.
The next time you consider why you would bother considering giving up the drink remember that, and all that will be lost by not taking a chance with sobriety.
Even if we are destined to be just another person happily riding the bus of life, each and every one of us deserves to make our journey unencumbered by our tendency to stifle our individuality and talents with alcohol.