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What’s the Best Way to Deal with a Relapse?

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The editorial staff of American Addiction Centers is made up of credentialed clinical reviewers with hands-on experience in or expert knowledge of addiction treatment.

When you go through the difficult recovery journey and come out on the other side clean and sober, you have a lot to feel good about. Yet you may also feel something many others who have walked in your shoes feel: fear of relapsing. After winning that hard-fought battle for sobriety, it can be devastating to consider that it might not last forever. However, it is actually relatively common to relapse at some point after you get clean. So common, in fact, that relapse is often considered one part of lifelong recovery.

This article will take an in-depth look into relapse after getting clean and what to do about it.

What is the Definition of Relapse?

By the simplest definition, a relapse is when a person returns to using drugs or alcohol after a period of sobriety. Many people recovering from addiction face a consistently high risk of relapse because chronic substance use can result in certain structural and functional brain alterations that persist well beyond the period that sobriety was first obtained.1

What is the Difference Between a Lapse and Relapse?

A lapse is a brief “slip” where a person may drink or use, but then immediately stops again. A relapse on the other hand is when a person makes a full blown return to drink and/or use of drugs.

What are the Types of Relapse?

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What is most often considered a “traditional” relapse occurs when someone makes a conscious decision to drink or use drugs. For example, they may choose to smoke marijuana to relieve stress after a year of sobriety or have a glass of wine with friends because they feel like they can manage it without going overboard. A “freelapse”, on the other hand, is the colloquial term for an accidental relapse that happens when a person unintentionally uses drugs or alcohol. This could happen when they mistakenly drink alcohol thinking they were being given a non-alcoholic beverage at a party.

Sometimes, you unknowingly begin taking steps toward a relapse weeks or months before actually drinking or using drugs. Certain thoughts, feelings, and events may trigger cravings and urges for drugs and alcohol, and, if not properly dealt with, may increase your chances of relapsing.

A relapse often proceeds in a series of 3 stages:2

  • The emotional relapse stage begins long before you pick up a drug or drink. During this stage, you may begin to fail to cope with your emotions in a healthy way. Instead, you may bottle up your feelings, isolate from others, deny your problems exist, and neglect your self-care. While you may not consciously think about using at this point, avoiding your emotions and difficult circumstances can lay the groundwork for a relapse down the road.
  • During the mental relapse stage, you are aware of holding conflicting feelings about sobriety. While a part of you may want to remain sober, another part may be battling cravings and secretly thinking about ways to relapse. A mental relapse may also involve glorifying past drug use, minimizing the negative consequences of using, and seeking out opportunities to get high.
  • The physical relapse stage involves the final action of actually using drugs or alcohol. What begins as an initial lapse of having one drink or drug can quickly proceed to a full-blown relapse, where you feel that you have little to no control over using.

People who relapse often face risk factors in the days, weeks, or months leading up to the actual act of relapsing. These usually come in the form of difficult feelings or experiences that challenge their ability to cope with their addictions without their substance of choice. And, the greater the number of risk factors, the higher your risk for relapse.3

Some of the most common risk factors for relapse include:1,3–5

  • Exposure to triggers.1 Triggers can involve social and environmental cues that remind you of drugs and alcohol. Social cues—such as seeing a drug dealer or friend who uses drugs—and environmental cues—like coming in contact with objects, smells, or places that you associate with drugs and alcohol—can produce intense cravings that may lead to a relapse.
  • Stress. 1,3 If you have high levels of stress and poor coping skills, you may turn to drugs and alcohol for relief. Negative emotions, such as anger, anxiety, depression, and boredom, sometimes increase your risk for relapse. Work and marital stress, in particular, have been known to contribute to relapse.4
  • Interpersonal problems.5 Conflict with family and friends can lead to negative feelings, including anger, sadness, and frustration. If these emotions are not properly managed, they can lead to a relapse. In fact, conflict with others has been found to be involved in more than 50% of all relapses.5
  • Peer pressure.3,5 Family or friends who use drugs and alcohol may put pressure on you to use too. Other times, simply being around other people who are using drugs or drinking can stir up strong urges and make you more prone to a relapse. As a result, this makes having family members or friends who use drugs a strong predictor of relapse.3
  • Lack of social support.4 Having a limited or negative support system (similar to the one described above) can make it more difficult to cope effectively without using drugs or alcohol.
  • Pain due to injuries, accidents, or medical issues.1 Doctors often prescribe narcotics to pain patients, or people may seek out these types of drugs illegally to alleviate acute or chronic pain on their own. While taking pain medications under the careful supervision of a medical professional can be safe, people with a history of addiction problems may have a difficult time controlling their use of them, particularly since most are opioids, which carry a high addiction potential.
  • Low self-efficacy.3,5 Self-efficacy is confidence in your ability to succeed in a certain area. Studies have shown that people with low self-efficacy in their abilities to stay sober have a higher risk of relapsing, while those with a sense of mastery over their sobriety are more likely to cope effectively.
  • Positive moods.4,5 You might be surprised to learn that positive emotions—not just negative ones—are also risk factors for relapse. This is true because when you are happy, you may want to enhance those feelings by using drugs and alcohol. Also, celebrations, such as anniversaries and birthdays, can also lead to relapse since these events are often associated with alcohol.
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Many different philosophies about recovery and relapse exist, often with opposing tenets, which can leave you confused about which is correct. For some, relapse is viewed in a negative light and indicates weakness. But this view is considered harmful since it fosters feelings of guilt and shame that can hinder your ability to recover from a setback. For others, recovery is a personal growth process that usually involves a couple setbacks.2 Rather than viewing a relapse as shameful, this perspective looks at it as a learning experience.

Understanding how a relapse happens is an important prevention strategy because you learn to recognize the signs and course-correct before you start using again. According to the model developed by Marlatt and Gordon, a relapse begins with a high-risk situation that is followed by a poor coping response. When this happens, you experience decreased self-efficacy and are more prone to a lapse, or initial one-time use of drugs or alcohol.5 For some people, a lapse is followed by a sense of guilt and failure about using again. Then, they might believe that drugs and alcohol will feel good and alleviate these negative feelings, and this chain of events can lead to a full-blown relapse where a person returns to uncontrolled use.

Whether or not you relapse is closely tied to your sense of self-efficacy. If you feel confident that you can cope with triggers and cravings, you are less likely to relapse in the face of stress.6 Remaining aware of your triggers and learning coping strategies can help enhance your confidence in your ability to remain sober and are vital to preventing and coping with relapse.

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What to Do Right After a Relapse

Whether you have experienced a relapse in the past or not, knowing how to deal with one can help you prevent future setbacks and recover if one should happen. Remember, no relapse is too big to recover from. If you or a loved one have suffered a relapse, consider taking action as soon as you can by:

  • Reaching out for help. Seeking support from family, friends, and other sober people can help you cope with a relapse. Surrounding yourself with positive influences can remind you that you are not alone, and sober friends may also provide advice and guidance about how to recover from a relapse.
  • Attending a self-help group. Twelve-step groups, such as Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous, and SMART Recovery, an alternative science-based mutual-help group, can provide a nonjudgmental place to talk about your relapse and an opportunity to learn about how other people have coped with similar situations in the past. There are usually meetings every day, so you should be able to find one the same day as your relapse or within 24 hours.
  • Avoiding triggers. Being around triggers shortly after a relapse can increase your cravings for drugs or alcohol. To prevent a relapse from continuing, it is helpful to remove yourself from as many triggers as you can, including people, places, and things that remind you of substance use. If some of your triggers cannot be avoided, consider minimizing contact with the trigger immediately after the relapse or at least until you feel more confident in your ability to cope without using.
  • Setting healthy boundaries. Boundaries are limits that we set for ourselves to protect us from harm. Having weak or poor boundaries can lead to negative emotions, such as anger and resentment, and may pose dangers to your sobriety. Examples of setting healthy boundaries can include refraining from having contact with negative or abusive people and avoiding harmful situations. You can begin by setting boundaries with people who pressure you to use drugs or alcohol.
  • Engaging in self-care. Taking care of yourself emotionally and physically is important after a relapse. Self-care can help you recover from a relapse by reducing tension and stress and can be any activity that brings you pleasure and does not cause harm, such as yoga, meditation, exercise, reading, journaling, and eating healthy foods.
  • Reflecting on the relapse. Rather than viewing a relapse as a failure, consider it a learning experience. Take some time to think about how the relapse happened. What took place before the relapse? Did you try to cope in other ways before using? What could you have done instead of using or drinking? The answers to these questions will help you see what you could have done differently and what changes you can make in the future.
  • Developing a relapse prevention plan. This will serve as a guide for helping you stay sober. Consider writing a detailed plan that outlines your triggers for drug use, at least 3 coping skills you know help you deal with stress and urges to use, and a list of people in your support system who you can contact for help. You might also include a list of local addiction support groups. It is helpful to refer to your plan regularly and make adjustments over time to keep it relevant to your current life experience.

The sooner you take steps to intervene following a relapse, the easier it is to get back on track. However, it is never too late to recover from a relapse, so don’t be discouraged if you think you’ve gone too far back into your addiction. It is not uncommon to need professional help to stop using after a relapse; many people benefit from the added support of an addiction treatment program a second and even third time (or more, in some cases).

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Do I Need to Go Back to Treatment?

If you find you just can’t stop using your substance of choice after a relapse, it is a good idea to seek out professional help. If you have recently attended treatment and experienced a relapse, it does not mean that your treatment failed. Similar to other chronic illnesses, relapses during addiction may simply indicate that you need to enter treatment again or adjust the current course of your recovery plan.1 Renewed participation in a treatment program can help you to again stop using drugs or alcohol and reduce the risk of future relapses.4,7

Different types of treatment programs offer various levels of care to meet you where you are in your recovery process. If you have already completed a treatment program, you can reach out to your former (or current) treatment providers, such as your therapist, psychiatrist, or medical doctor to get their advice on the next step to take. It is also helpful to have the members of your support system—family, friends, and sponsors—on board with whatever the best course of action is for you to help with the practical matters of everyday life while you’re getting sober again.

When deciding whether to attend an inpatient or outpatient program following a relapse, discuss these factors with your treatment team and support system:

  • Type of drug used. Certain drugs carry a high risk for severe or complicated withdrawal, such as opioids, benzodiazepines, barbiturates, and alcohol. If you relapsed on any of these substances, you may need inpatient detox to safely manage your withdrawal symptoms.1 Quitting opioids, such as heroin, fentanyl, oxycodone, and hydrocodone, can result in very uncomfortable withdrawal symptoms like anxiety, abdominal cramps, nausea, vomiting, and diarrhea. Withdrawal from alcohol, benzodiazepines, and barbiturates can be particularly dangerous due to the risk of severe developments such as agitation, delirium, hallucinations, and seizures.8 Inpatient medical detox programs are equipped to prescribe medications to manage dangerous acute withdrawal syndromes and can provide supervision and support to minimize discomfort and reduce the risk of complications.
  • Level of social support. Having a stable sober support system in place at home and in your community plays a role in how you recover from a relapse.6 For those with support at home, an outpatient program may be a good choice, though inpatient options are often suitable as well.1 For those without this kind of help, an inpatient program may be a better option because it provides a more supportive environment.
  • Housing. Trying to recover from a relapse while living in an unstable environment or in a place where drugs or alcohol are present can be challenging, if not impossible. In addition to inpatient programs, another option may be moving into a sober living facility, which provides structured, drug-free housing. While living there, residents may be expected to follow certain rules and comply with periodic drug testing.
  • Transportation. Outpatient programs require that participants are able to come and go from the facility as many as 6 days per week. Lack of transportation can make it challenging to commit to these requirements, so if you don’t have a reliable means of transportation, you might opt for an inpatient program.
  • Physical or mental health conditions. If you have physical or mental health issues in addition to your substance use disorder, you may need the intensity of an inpatient programs since they are often better equipped to treat co-occurring conditions. Women who are pregnant may also be better served in inpatient programs.1
  • Past treatment experiences. If you have completed a treatment program before your relapse, you may need a higher level of care. For instance, if you previously attended an outpatient program and then relapsed, you may benefit from an inpatient program at this point.
  • Risk for further relapse. Recovering from a relapse is challenging when you are continually faced with triggers, stress, and cravings. While you may be able to stop using temporarily, your chances of returning to substance abuse are high if these issues are not properly addressed. Both inpatient and outpatient programs can help you learn how to deal with your triggers, stress, and cravings to reduce the likelihood of a future relapse.1

Less-intensive treatment may be an option if this is your first relapse and you are in good physical and mental health, are not at risk for severe withdrawal, and have a sober support system in place. Your treatment team can help you decide whether inpatient, outpatient, or other treatment options are more appropriate for you.

What Are My Treatment Options After a Relapse?

In addition to the treatment options mentioned above—detox (particularly for alcohol, opioids, benzodiazepines, barbiturates, and prescription sedatives), inpatient, and outpatient programs—there are a few other avenues to consider after a relapse.

Behavioral therapies are one type of treatment that can help prevent future relapses. They teach you to modify unhealthy and incorrect beliefs about drug use and provide you with skills to manage stress, cravings, and triggers. The most commonly used form of this is known as cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), which focuses on understanding how your thoughts lead to feelings, which prompt behaviors, and how to change negative beliefs to positive ones.1

Other treatment options you might consider following a relapse include:

  • Increased personal therapy. If you are already attending individual therapy, it may be beneficial to see your therapist more frequently (e.g., 2–4 times a week) to understand why and how the relapse happened and to develop tools to prevent future relapses. Couples and family therapy sessions can also help you work through the impact of the relapse on your relationships and give family members tools to support you in your continued recovery. Family members can also attend 12-step support groups, such Al-Anon, Nar-Anon, and Alateen, which provide community among loved ones of people addicted to drugs and alcohol.
  • Relapse prevention classes or groups. Attending classes or groups that specifically deal with relapse prevention can give you the skills necessary to cope with triggers, cravings, and stress over the long term.
  • Increased self-help meetings. If you are already attending 12-step or SMART Recovery meetings, you may find it helpful to attend meetings more frequently following a relapse. Self-help meetings can give you an opportunity to process your relapse in a supportive and non-judgmental environment.
  • Increased self-care. Taking steps to cope with your all the feelings and potential consequences of a relapse is important. If these issues are not properly managed, the stress around them could lead to using drugs and alcohol as a maladaptive means of coping.1 Self-care can include starting a daily meditation or yoga practice and taking care of your physical health by exercising, sleeping, and eating well, meeting with a nutritionist, and following up on physical health issues with your doctor. It can also involve positive activities that bring you pleasure, such as reading, writing, traveling, going for a walk, or playing sports.

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Last Updated on October 26, 2021
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