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Emotional Wellness in Recovery Guide

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What you will learn:
Identify the 8 kinds of wellness and embarrassing your emotions for your emotional and mental health.
How to use mindfulness therapy to over come negative thinking.
Learn more about how mindfulness can lead to a healthier life and successful recovery.

Taking a personal inventory of thoughts and feelings about a particular situation, or even just in general, is one of the keys to enjoying a balanced and healthy life. But not everyone has the luxury of focusing on themselves; people with mental health or substance use disorders usually struggle to take stock of where their heads (and hearts) are. For this reason, emotional wellness in recovery is hugely important and a cornerstone of the counseling and rehabilitative process.

The 8 Kinds of Wellness

The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration explains that the concept of “wellness” refers to being in good health—both physically and mentally. Since the two are closely linked, an imbalance in one area of life can cause distress in another. Similarly, taking care of one side of the equation can benefit the other.

8 wellness dimensions

Broadly speaking, there are eight dimensions of wellness that cover several aspects of modern-day life:

  1. Emotional wellness: coping with life and maintaining healthy relationships.
  2. Environmental wellness: situating oneself in pleasant, supportive environments that promote health and well-being.
  3. Financial wellness: being content with current and future financial situations.
  4. Intellectual wellness: practicing creativity and actively expanding knowledge and skills.
  5. Occupational wellness: being satisfied and fulfilled with professional life.
  6. Physical wellness: exercise, healthy food habits, and getting enough sleep.
  7. Social wellness: encouraging interpersonal connections and cultivating a healthy support system.
  8. Spiritual wellness: not necessarily religious, but having a sense of purpose and meaning in life.

All eight dimensions are important in recovery, and many treatment centers will have classes or groups that address each dimension. This is why, for example, a number of facilities offer (or encourage) exercise as part of their programs; running can ease stress, help with depression, clear the mind, boost short-term brain functioning, and heighten awareness, to the point of making a person “comfortable with the uncomfortable.”

Embracing a Full Range of Emotions

emotional heatlh In the same way that physical health plays a big part in recovery, emotional health is also a key factor. Being emotionally healthy goes beyond simply being happy; instead, the concept of emotional wellness entails the practice of paying attention to thoughts, feelings, moods, and behaviors, whether they are positive or negative. Being unhappy in an appropriate situation (when receiving bad news, for example) can ultimately be an informative, adaptive reaction; emotional health means accepting that the unhappiness is a normal, natural (and even healthy) reaction to bad news, and understanding that the unhappiness will, in time, pass.

Any significant change in life involves challenge and setbacks, and an inherent part of this process is feeling sad, lonely, stressed, or some other distressing emotion. Avoiding emotions can be exhausting and, ultimately, detrimental to long term health and well-being. People who strive to avoid feeling unhappy may find themselves locked in a constant struggle of trying to avoid people, places, and memories, which becomes impossible after a while. In these instances, life itself may become a seemingly never-ending series of failed escapes, and instead of healthy coping mechanisms, a person may be more likely to fall back on unhealthy coping mechanisms, like abusive behavior or substance use.

Emotional avoidance entails denying the truth and reality of a situation. A person insisting, “I’m fine,” when it is clear they are upset or angry, and then refusing to talk through the problem, is sabotaging their emotional health in favor of putting up a strong front.

The crux of emotional wellness is that a person has to not only be aware of whatever moods and feelings are being experienced but also know that those moods and feelings should be embraced as growth or learning opportunities.

Enjoying life does not happen because the disappointments and frustrations of life are ignored, but because they are dealt with maturely and positively. This can mean saying things like, “I’m angry, because…” or “This makes me upset.” Such acknowledgments are a fundamental step toward dealing with the problem head on. Pretending that nothing is wrong, or instinctively denying that there is any distress, can be emotionally unhealthy.

A guide to emotional wellness in addiction recovery.

Practicing and Improving Emotional Wellness

counselor Practicing emotional wellness doesn’t come easily for a lot of people; they may have mental health disorders that make it difficult to think positively or logically about their feelings, or they may have substance abuse problems that cloud their thinking. With the help of a counselor and the support of family and friends, emotional wellness is a skill that can be developed and constantly practiced and improved (much like exercise). Development can entail coming up with a plan to establish some emotional wellness goals, like doing something to reduce stress (e.g., yoga, fishing, journaling, etc.), setting challenging but achievable goals, and maintaining a balance of work, social and family obligations, and personal time. These might take a little work and time, which is where regular counseling and support come in. Ongoing sessions with a therapist help people to remain emotionally aware, reinforce the skills and tips to employ to keep a positive attitude (even when experiencing unhappiness or anger) and emphasize language to use when asking for help. In addition, therapy can help people accept that mistakes are a useful part of the process—serving as great opportunities for learning and continued development.

The result of improving emotional wellness is that an individual will be able to:

  • Make decisions and choices that take feelings, thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors into account
  • Not be afraid of challenges and risks, and understand that changes in life can be healthy and beneficial
  • Take responsibility for actions, making life more personally rewarding

Conquering Negative Thinking

The idea of acknowledging and accepting negative thoughts is so important in emotional wellness that The New York Times, in declaring 2017 as “The Year of Conquering Negative Thinking,” lists the first step of overcoming negative thinking (for all its ubiquity) as simply not trying to outright stop negative thinking. A psychologist and president of a mental health training and resource center explained that controlling thoughts requires work; someone who is emotionally unwell, whether due to addiction or a mood disorder, does not know how to do that work. Instead, worry over simply “stopping” the negative thoughts becomes an obsession in itself.

The remedy is to accept, without judgment or guilt, the existence of negative thoughts. This allows them to be broken down and reshaped into a more emotionally healthy outlook.

Guilt can upset emotional balance, and practicing emotional wellness will help people say “no” without feeling guilty. This could be anything from saying “no” to the invitation to go out drinking or smoke a joint to saying “no” to an uncomfortable favor in a relationship (whether personal or professional). Scientific American explains that “no” is one of the shortest words in the English language but one of the hardest to say because we feel obligated, pressured, or guilted into saying “yes.” Emotional wellness means being in confident enough to say “no,” but doing so in such a way that it doesn’t harm the relationship. This might mean that the “no” becomes a conversation in itself—finding a compromise or another solution. The relationship is furthered, and the person will not have to sacrifice personal (or professional) space.

Liking Yourself

emotional wellness Unbalanced, codependent relationships may thrive when people are so dedicated to pleasing their partners or other close relations that they “lose their voice” (i.e., lose their say and their autonomy) to the other individual. Obviously, such an imbalance can be unhealthy and, in the long term, contribute to additional distress (including, but not limited to, substance abuse and behavioral problems). A part of learning how to be emotionally healthy means learning how to reclaim your voice—learning how to say “no” in a manner that respects yourself and the partner.

Respecting oneself is a key part of emotional wellness. Struggles with substance use disorders and other mental health issues may present challenges to individual self-esteem. But in recovery, a therapist can work with an individual on how to build that sense of respect up, to the point where self-respect develops.

An important aspect of emotional wellness is being generally content about life (even when things are difficult) and feeling good about oneself as a person. Character flaws can be accepted as opportunities to grow and not as weaknesses for self-hatred or shame.

Liking oneself translates to being flexible, able to adapt to the different and challenging situations that are a normal part of modern life. Those who struggle to accept themselves will similarly struggle to meet personal or professional difficulties head on and may resort to drinking or drug use to work up the nerve to tackle their problems.

People coached in emotional wellness, however, know how to be mindful of their surroundings, their emotions and reactions, and other people’s emotions and reactions. They are able to put everything together to determine the best course of action: knowing how to say “no,” how to step away from a potentially difficult scene, how to control their anger and impulses, or how to let someone else have the last word if it means a mutually beneficial resolution.

Being flexible does not mean always giving in or compromising, but it does mean setting boundaries and understanding how to change. People who do not have this kind of emotional balance can’t adapt; tough conversations can become arguments and fights, and unfavorable situations can end in using alcohol or drugs as the easy way of coping.


Mindfulness Therapy

Emotional wellness is an important part of recovery. Being aware of and reacting appropriately to different thoughts and moods can be a vital part of sober and healthy living. Regulating emotions means accepting them as natural and normal parts of being human—everything from happiness and excitement to fear and sorrow.

For many people, regulating emotions is much easier said than done, especially if there is a mental health or substance use disorder at hand. With counseling, a person can be shown how to acknowledge and handle emotions (even the uncomfortable ones) without getting overwhelmed.

Being in the moment is one of the main concepts of mindfulness therapy, which the Drug and Alcohol Dependence journal says “improves emotional regulation and reduces drug abuse.” Mindfulness entails a judgment-free awareness of both our internal and external environments, which encompass our thoughts, feelings, sensations, and surrounding stimuli.

An important part of mindfulness in recovery is acceptance—being aware of our feelings and emotions, and evaluating them with a neutral eye can allow us to better anticipate and modify our reactions to triggers, warning signs, and harmful thought processes. In this manner, we are better able to temper any maladaptive and/or compulsive responses that could provide setbacks to the recovery journey.

A state of mindfulness can be entered in different ways, but a common method is by practicing specific breathing exercises, which are designed to draw a person’s specific attention to the action of inhaling and exhaling. This may act as a diversion away from feelings of anxiety, shame, anger, or depression, and it can start the mindfulness process. Deep breathing helps to diminish stress, which itself allow people to more closely attune themselves with their immediate environment and their sensory responses to it. A focus on our senses anchors our minds to the present, providing a sense of reality that may counter the compulsion to react maladaptively to both external and internal stressors.

Changing Our Brains With Mindfulness

With practice, people can use mindfulness techniques to regulate their emotional wellness in recovery. When relapse threatens, the skill of focusing on breathing and senses can serve as a lifeline until the impulse to drink or use drugs passes. A study published in the Psychiatry Research: Neuroimaging journal found that in eight weeks, patients who had undergone mindfulness therapy had better-developed senses of self and empathy, and lower stress levels. Magnetic resonance scans on those patients further showed that their brains actually changed as a result of their therapy; researchers noticed that the hippocampus, the region responsible for learning and memory, was denser after eight weeks of mindfulness. Similar changes were observed in the parts of the brain associated with self-awareness, introspection, and even compassion. There was less density in the amygdala, the region that regulates anxiety and stress, suggesting that the mindfulness therapy was effective in improving emotional wellness.

Mindfulness, writes a counselor in The Fix, can give both the client and the caregiver “valuable information about what is unfolding inside.” Mindfulness fosters understanding about how and why the mind works the way it does as well as what thoughts and feelings lead to other thoughts and feelings. Paying attention to this progression can encourage better and healthier decision-making.

For those with mental health or substance use disorders, there is often a lot of “background noise,” which tends to be judgmental, self-critical, or lopsided. Individuals are naturally made to feel distressed because of the diatribe, and they find escape and temporary relief in drugs or alcohol. What mindfulness does is slow everything down, stemming the flow of background noise into a trickle—one that is much more easily scrutinized and countered. With practice and guidance, individuals can learn how they can choose from a number of healthy, positive responses to the chatter.


Shame, Forgiveness, and Emotional Wellness

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Everybody experiences shame, and for most people, the experience passes. But for people with mental health and substance use disorders, the shame never fully goes away. Shame can reinforce negative thought patterns and potentially exacerbate or underlie the development of debilitating mood disorders. It can poison relationships, where one partner becomes domineering, dysfunctional, and abusive over the other because of the deep-seated sense of self-loathing at the center of the union.

Transitioning from shame to emotional wellness in recovery entails forgiveness—more specifically, self-forgiveness. A writer in the Huffington Post notes that the idea of forgiving is not simply “letting go” of unhappy or uncomfortable feelings but processing them in a constructive manner—one that ultimately leads to a new and better place in life. Part of the solution is found in, again, acknowledging emotions; from this, a person will be shown how to take responsibility for whatever it was that caused the shame. With the help of a counselor, an individual can move away from excuses, justifications, and blaming other people. Difficult as though this stage may be, it is vital for the development of emotional wellness.

Researchers at Baylor University suggest that by making amends for wrongdoings (perhaps wrongdoings committed while under the influence) it is possible to sincerely and productively self-forgive, which in turn helps guard against depression and anxiety.

Many of the people who experience deep shame as a result of an event in their past “feel morally obligated to hang on to those feelings,” usually out of a misguided sense of penitence; however, not knowing how to let go of those feelings can make the sense of shame into an obsession, one that pollutes other areas of life. In recovery, a therapist or a counselor can help a person in this situation understand how to use the idea of the shame proactively, making amends for the wrong and then moving on.

Emotional Wellness in Recovery

man in recovery Emotional wellness is a crucial factor in promoting overall health and recovery. Being able to put past events in perspective creates contentment and balance in the present day, and lays the groundwork for a healthier future. When it comes to substance use and mental health issues, relapse triggers and other challenges to recovery may be commonly encountered; however, maintaining emotional wellness helps equip us with the tools and ideas needed to right the course of recovery and promote long-lasting health.

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